Monday, July 4, 2011

thoughts on marriage

I still can't get over the 'Simple Girl' article I read last week. To know what a simple girl is like, it says to look at your FB contacts and check who among your friends are the ones happily married and living perfect lives. Ganun? I am happily married, but I was happily single too. And, no, I am not living the perfect life now that I'm finally married and with child!

My point is, being married and having a baby is not the perfect life. It is a happy life, yes, but only if we choose to be happy in spite of the difficulties. Because married life is not for the faint-hearted; it is for those who know what commitment means.

happy family naman :)

There are days when you get so tired you wish you could get a day off, but you can't because marriage is a 24/7 commitment. And then you'll realize you don't really want a day off because you can't bear to be away from your loved ones for that long. There are days when you wish for everything to come fast forward so you'll get past the nitty-gritty stuff and straight to the day your child graduates from school and you're secure that he'll be able to get on with his life. And then you realize you don't want the days to go so fast because you just can't get enough of the little munchkin yet. What spells the difference between your wishful thinking-slash-complaining is your commitment to see this through, no matter what, because you know you love your family so much and in spite of it all, you'd still want to savor every minute with them, easy or not.

I just thank God I got married when I did, that I was already in my 30's. I am more sensible, less emotional, more understanding and giving than I was, say, 5 years ago. I can't imagine how I'd be able to properly take care of a baby and be a dutiful wife if I got married while in my early 20's. Oh, maybe I would have learned in time, but at least I've been spared from more mistakes. Of course right now we are still learning. But with age comes experience, and therefore, more sensibility, or so I think.


  1. Ay commitment phobic yata ako? Hahaha!

  2. hinde, baka one at a time ka lang, hehe. may inuunang commitment bago sumabak sa bago ;)